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They’re argument is always something like: “Trust me, sex is like a whole new experience.And once you experience it with one person you’re going to get curious about what it’s like with other people and you’re going to want to try it with other people.You’ll be locked-in to the relationship and totally unfulfilled! In many ways, attitude towards sex (waiting or not) can be a quality like “sense of humor”: everybody is slightly different and a mismatch can really eat away at a relationship if not addressed, just like those non-waiting people told you that it can. You may think that because your girl/guy is enthusiastic and open in conversation that they’re going to be the same way in the bedroom.That is not always the case, especially when it comes to people with little sexual experience.You would do wheelies, hit the breaks and skid sideways to a stop, jump off ramps — all kinds of stuff.That first bike probably got more attention, focused learning, and experimentation out of you than any other bike thereafter. I’ve never given much weight to this objection, but I’ve heard it more than once.Some people will try to attack your decision to wait until marriage by attacking the Bible or other religious texts because they think it is your primary motivation for waiting.
But if your marriage is satisfying, two concepts come into play: Inattentiveness to Alternatives and Derogation of Alternatives. Your happily-married brain is blind to potential alternatives. They start picking the alternative partner apart and focusing on their flaws And the more threatening the stranger is to your happy marriage, the more viciously you pick them apart [Source: Scientific journals on Derogation of Alternatives] Kurt Russel once famously said, when asked how he had remained committed to Goldie Hawn while being a sex symbol, “I’ve met a lot of other women, but none of them are Goldie Hawn.” In my experience, that’s a common sentiment among people who are happy with their partners.
The worst of these people are just trying to corrode your virtue because they hate you for it; they despise what they don’t have in themselves and want to destroy it so you’ll be like them and they’ll feel less convicted (misery loves company). The objection here is that you will marry somebody who differs from you on one of those three factors.